Sex Therapy, Explained by a Sex Therapist

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The transformative essence of sex therapy involves processing, healing, understanding, and resolving issues related to sexuality.

When I reveal that I'm a sex therapist, I often get reactions that range from curiosity to raised eyebrows. There's a fair amount of misconception about what my role entails, and truth be told, it's not as sensational as some might imagine. At its core, sex therapy is a specialized branch of talk therapy, focused on processing, healing, understanding, and resolving issues related to sexuality. I work with both individuals and couples, addressing a spectrum of concerns that people might find challenging to discuss elsewhere, from exploring LGBTQ+ identities and navigating open relationships to introducing kink and tackling sexual dysfunction. The topics that surface in my sessions are as diverse as the individuals I work with.

Misconceptions

One prevalent misconception is that the solution to sexual issues lies solely in medication, a narrative often perpetuated by the pharmaceutical industry. However, much like taking an antidepressant for depression addresses only one facet of the issue, relying solely on medication for sexual concerns could be ignoring the broader sources of the problem. The intricate interplay of anxiety and relational issues in these scenarios is often underestimated. Intrusive thoughts about performance, identity, and societal expectations can create a feedback loop that exacerbates the issue. Sex therapy delves into these psychological aspects, helping individuals break free from unhealthy cycles fueled by anxiety.

My Journey

My journey into sex therapy stemmed from my personal experiences in childhood. Like many people, I grew up in a household where sex was a taboo topic. A brief conversation about the “birds and the bees,” paired with media that only portrayed heterosexual couples, resulted in confusion and shame around my own sexuality. I had to engage in my own personal growth and introspection, leading me to my goal of wanting to become the guide to others I never had. As a sex therapist, I strive to support my clients in their journey towards sexual understanding and acceptance.

Assessment

Sex therapy begins with an assessment process, which could be done both individually and in relationships. This phase involves delving into sexual history and examining the messages that have been absorbed from various sources such as family, past partners, and societal influences. The insights gained from this exploration then play a pivotal role in shaping the goals for therapy.

Education

Education is a significant component of sex therapy, aiming to debunk misinformation and challenge internalized sexual scripts that may contribute to unhealthy perceptions of sex. This educational aspect is particularly crucial as it sets the stage for individuals and couples to embark on a journey of open communication. Communication takes center stage, allowing clients to articulate their needs, desires, and concerns with candor. Effective communication, a cornerstone of sex therapy, becomes the linchpin for building intimacy and navigating conflicts, fostering a profound understanding of each other's needs and desires.

Conclusion

It is understandable why discussions about sex can evoke discomfort. However, breaking through the barriers of awkwardness or fear is where the transformative journey begins. As a sex therapist, my role is to create a space that transcends judgment, providing a platform for clients to unravel the layers of their sexuality with understanding, empathy, and acceptance. In a world saturated with misinformation, the conversations we have, no matter how uncomfortable they may initially seem, serve as catalysts for dispelling myths and fostering genuine self-discovery. Sex therapy embraces the opportunity to navigate the complexities of sexuality together, dismantling the stigma surrounding these discussions and paving the way for a more informed, liberated, and empowered approach to our most intimate selves.

Our therapists at GTWC are here to help as well- contact intake@gracecft.com to be matched with a therapist who can support you through SAD.